A marriage isn't about it being fun and exciting all the time - perfection and everything going great!
It's coming home to the same person every day that you know loves and cares about you, in spite of and because of who you are. It's laughing about the one time you accidentally did something stupid. It's about dirty laundry and unmade beds without finger pointing. It's about helping each other with the hard work of life! It's about swallowing the nagging words instead of saying them out loud.
It's about eating the cheapest and easiest meal you can make and sitting down together at 10 p.m. to eat because you both had a crazy day. It's when you have an emotional breakdown, and your love lays with you and holds you and tells you everything is going to be okay, and you believe them. It's when "Netflix and Chill" literally means you watch Netflix and hang out. It's about still loving someone even though sometimes they make you absolutely insane, angry, and hurt your feelings. Who loves you for fat or thin, happy or grumpy, young or old.
Living with the person you love is not perfect, and sometimes it's hard, but it's amazing, comforting, and one of the best things you'll ever experience.
A wedding is the beginning of these adventures together - a wedding is one day (and quite a few months of planning) it is sharing and showing the love that you have for each other - you are surrounded by love, support, well wishes and those that share in your journey and life together.
For your wedding - make sure you focus on what you are building together - don't over spend, make sure that your wedding is a reflection of who you are - a day of fun and celebration is the start of how you see your life together, the family that you will create - whether that is in the form of children or fur babies - you two will become a family, you are now each others person - yes you have your family, your parents and siblings - but now it is you two against the world, you will form your own family bubble and your wedding day is the start of that journey.
In some ways a wedding is nothing compared to the marriage that you will create - it is merely the starting point, one of life's many stepping stones, and there will be many - there will be laughter and tears, sadness and happiness and you need to make sure that you hold on tight through every single one of them.
We don't do marriages - but we do an amazing job at supporting you for your wedding day - finding out what it is that makes you two sepcial - what you will be looking back on in years to come, remembering that day that you had - the photos and videos, maybe even putting on your dress and dancing around the kitchen to your first dance, because having a night out isn't on the agenda right now........life happens, and you need to make sure that the person you have decided to spend it with is going to love and support you in all of your stages of life - the good and the bad, the rough and the smooth.
So find someone, that wants to see you smile, that want's to make your day better, and someone that let's you grow and be you - there can be no judegment in a marriage or a wedding, for both, you need a substantail amount of love and laughter. You are in this life together - make it one worth looking back on. You are building a family based on love, and creating a home together.
